Nastiness; cattiness: malevolence by virtue of being malicious or spiteful or nasty; the quality of being unpleasant.....
…..is it ever really necessary? OH…I’m sure the person being nasty certainly believes it is…But I ask you…IS IT?
How could there possibly be a point to purposely being mean…....there are so many people out there...wasting precious time...in the pursuit of being nasty to others.... and what really throws me is when someone writes something nasty somewhere.... be it Face Book…a Blog or Forum….it takes only minutes and there are fifteen people agreeing with the nastiness..saying things like “I love it”….”OMG..that’s so funny” ..or even adding their own nasty spin on the quote or passive aggressive statement or complaint………….. I’m sorry but I JUSTdon’t get it….
Nastiness has been around since the beginning of time…no matter the people, no matter the circumstance there is always hate..it’s a sad sad truth..but it’s there. We are all guilty of it on some level at some point in our lives….we are human and all of us make mistakes from time to time…… we can not go through life without having been nasty to someone, somewhere along the way. Thankfully..the majority of us learn from our mistakes and realize the error of our ways. Unfortunately..there are those that don’t…..there are people out there that think being mean and nasty is somehow funny..people that seem to get a kick out of making fun of or hurting others and just plain being nasty….
I ask you this; the next time you encounter someone being nasty……whether it be in a conversation… ….posted on Face Book, a forum or when you are out and about in your daily lives…….before commenting…going along with or becoming a part of the nastiness…….stop for a second …take just one moment…..and ask yourself…”how would I feel if this nastiness….this…..comment…quote…statement…etc…...was aimed at…meant for…or being said to………. ME”
We have to start somewhere…it’s time we stopped and realized…..The Importance Of Being Kind…………..
Kindness; the act or the state of being kind and marked by charitable behavior, marked by mild disposition, pleasantness, tenderness and concern for others.
Kindness…..now isn’ that a much nicer word……………..:)
I’m sorry if this sounds like I’m preaching..but I saw a comment on facebook this morning…a nasty “quote”..that many folks found very funny and it’s been bothering me all day……
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I’m off now to put another log on the fire & enjoy a bowl of homemade soup on this beautiful snowy afternoon. I wish all of you a wonderful day. :) Doreen
22 delightful friends dropped in for a visit:
Don't you think the root of most nastiness is jealousy and envy? It is a terrible addiction that is spreading rapidly to a world of disenchanted people (since they obviously cannot see the good in their lives either). I for one, love my life. I made it my New Years resolution two years ago to cast negativity out of my life. And unfortunately, if that means shutting down a conversation among friends by changing the topic casually, then I am up to the challenge. Negativity and nastiness can creep into your soul if you surround yourself with it. Some people wear negativity like a warm blanket. Heaven forbid we wish the best for ourselves and everyone in the world. It is a simple choice how we wake up to see the day. Why on earth would you want to kick it off by bullying or back stabbing others? It is sad and there is no excuse for such behavior.
Yes, it is indeed sad. I guess we could look at it two ways. Even going back to biblical times ~ there has been evil, jealousy and hatred. Then, there was word of mouth that spread this sickness and negativity. Then newspapers, radio, tv, now the internet. It has always been there however, now it is surrounds and often consumes us. Personally, I do not acknowledge the "comments", the source and most importantly, the person. I CHOOSE to have peace in my home; friends that are good, kind, creative and supportive. I try VERY hard to forgive my enemies in my prayers; I take responsibility and accept the decisions I've made in my life (good, bad and indifferent); I love my children unconditionally; I encourage and praise my grandchildren and try to live each day as though it is my last. Oh, and don't forget to nurture your sense of humor. Mean people don't like that ~ it is not the response they were after. Lots of love and hugs! Marilyn :))
♥ Love & kindness to you Doreen from one Vermonter to another, Judi
Doreen ,Your comment,I hope will make all of us stop and think if only once to be just a bit kinder in our actions . I know that I am guilty more than once of saying or doing something that has hurt someone,at the time I did not realize that I was doing so.I believe that I am a person that would never hurt someone I love or even a stranger.None the less it has happened and I have tried to be mindful of it .I think it is always good when we are reminded of this short coming in ourself.Love MOM
SUCH AN INSIGHTFUL POST .. IT PUTS THINGS INTO THE RIGHT AND PROPER LIGHT... THANK YOU ~ !! B
Well said Doreen, the way we should all live our lives <3
in most cases, the person being negative towards another is deeply disatisfied in themselves and haven't the tools or the desire for self improvement. many times someone has been just as mean to them. it is sad and so unnecessary. i am sorry you had to experience such poor behavior. you seem like a strong and good soul...if it helps at all, you have a lot of bloggie buddies who think you are great! jill
So well said Doreen - What a great post and I´m totally with you and I couldn´t have said it in a better way.
Wishing you an awesome and wonderful day
Big Hugs
Tina
A most thoughtful post Doreen... thank you for sharing such heartfelt words. May peace and light surround you this day and always.
Hugs,
Judy ox
You're right on the mark, Doreen. I've never understood it. In fact, I stopped watching prime time TV, especially the comedies, because I just couldn't watch people treat each other like that. I think so many people have forgotten "the golden rule." Thanks for reminding us of it!
Heaps of Hugs,
Cheryl
Right on, sista ! ANd... Brenda has it just right.... Folks like that are downright jealous and miserable and not comfortable with their own selves. I have witnessed such ugliness.... I used to see it far too
often...long ago. Life is so much sweeter when you live in a kind and loving world. No room for meanies in my world :-) You are a kind and dear soul...don't let the meanies in :-)
Good morning Brenda, Marilyn, Judy, Mom, Barb, Kris, Jill, Tina, Judy, Cheryl & Dru :)
Thank you all so very much for stopping by, taking the time to leave a comment and best of all..being such kind and wonderful people. I'm very proud to call each and every one of you my friend.
♥Doreen
You epitomize "kindness" Doreen!
My mom always said "If you don't have anything nice to say, say nothing at all." profound advice.
♥Nan
Good Morning Doreen ~~
A wonderful post ...... Sad to say, but some people are so comfortable in their own misery, they have a need to spread it around.
I for one feel very sorry for them ... but I don't spend much time around them, and I never comment on a nasty or negative post.
We kept a sign hanging the store I work that stated ......
Be Nice ~~ Because It Matters !!
Blessings & Hugs ~ Connie xox
Amen! I feel that way too...be kind. A good post:)
Warm hugs ~ Jenn
I so agree Doreen ..there is never a need for nastiness ..of ANY kind.
All I can say is Karma ..:)
xo
Amen, sistah!
Good morning Nan..AS DO YOU MY DEAR...AS DO YOU! hugs! D
Good morning Connie~Thank you ever so much for stopping by. I must say..I agree with you 100%..you said it perfectly :)
Wishing you a lovely day :)Doreen
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Hello sweet Jenn..you are such a warm sweet person..I know you truly do live your life this way :)Hugs, D
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Karma is right my friend!!! :)D
Hello Dawn :) Hugs to you :)
Nothing wrong with pointing this subject out to everyone. It is really sad how everybody is reacting these days, no matter where you go. Maybe it is the hard times everyone is experiencing, but I noticed it myself, just by going to the store, hardly anyone says excuse me anymore. We need to bring the kindness back, especially in the young generation.Hopefully times will get better for everyone! We need to be kind, lets start now!
Not to forget, I love your blog!
Hi Doreen--I'm Leslie, from Sugar and Spice, and I LOVE your blog. I have to give you one of my favorite quotes on kindness--I read it everyday: "Be kind whenver possible. It is always possible"--by Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama.
Bravo for your courage to speak what's on your mind. Brilliant post and much food for thought. I wonder what the impact would be if there was a national be nice to others day and people only twittered or facebooked niceness to all their friends.....oh, what a happy day that could be.
Thank you for addressing this much needed reminder.
Barbara
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